Talk to your teen in a respectful manner. Here are some tips
to express how you feel:
Start with positive statements.
Avoid You-messages, which accuse, blame, and criticize. They
destroy communication, reinforce goals of misbehaviour, and
can trigger your teen to become defensive and avoid responsibility.
Don’t use the words “never” and “always”
as your teen will only focus on exceptions. For example, you
may say, “You never clean your room,” and your teen
may reply with, “Oh yes I did, last year!”
Use I-messages to express your feelings and concerns. These messages encourage teens to return
respect. For example, you can say, “When the living room
is messy, I feel taken advantaged of because I either have to
live with a messy room or clean up myself."
Do use I-messages to express positive feelings.
Consider sharing a relevant experience from your own teen